How to Get Over Approach Anxiety and Meet Women

Many men imagine the worst case scenario where they get shot down by a woman, so they don’t even make the attempt to go over to her and strike up a conversation. The feeling that comes over a man when he is worried about the outcome of “putting himself out there” is called approach anxiety.

This is not a clinical term, but it is an accurate description of what many men feel when they see a beautiful woman.  Men who have low self esteem or have been burned many times before will probably not even make the attempt.  This panicky feeling can be overcome with a little bit of work on your part.

Here are some things you can do to get over your episodes of approach anxiety:

<b>1. Breathe.</b> The best thing to do to relax is some deep breathing.  It helps you to focus, clear your mind and eliminate the approach anxiety.

<b>2. Walk slowly.</b> If you can concentrate on your movements, making them slower and more deliberate, you will be able to relax your body and become more calm.

<b>3. Go to places you are familiar with.  If you are out of your element, you will definitely feel uncomfortable.  If you are in a familiar place, you will not feel as much anxiety.

<b>4. Buddy up.</b> In other words, go out with a friend.  When you are in a situation where there are women who you want to approach, take turns with your friend and actually approach a woman, then have him do the same.  This will make it a challenge, and you can encourage each other.

<b>5. Practice.</b> Try approaching women that you aren’t even interested in and striking up a simple conversation with them.  Forcing yourself to interact with people will help you to interact with women you want to approach.

Also, don’t take too much time.  If you have worked yourself up to make the approach, don’t stand around and hover near a woman for more than five seconds, it becomes creepy.  You need to take action or move on.

Approach anxiety really boils down to fear of loss.  You have a deep seated fear that you will lose a piece of yourself if you put yourself out there and get rejected.  Every solid relationship starts with two people meeting, and there is no way to meet a great woman without first approaching her.