Special report by Dean Cortez, creator of the Mack Tactics Seduction System For Men
Hi Dean,
Your dating advice for guys is always on point. I've got a quick question. What is the most effective way to ask an attractive co-worker for her phone number and/or ask her out for a date, bearing in mind I have to see her every day? I get positive vibes fom her and we've worked in the same bank for several months, but it's hard to read her mind. I would appreciate your feedback on how to ask a girl out the Mack Tactics way.
Thanx,
Aaron
>>> DEAN CORTEZ RESPONDS:
Funny you should ask me this -- I recently noticed a SMOKING hot girl that works as a teller at my bank. (It's challenging, however, to work my magic on her when she's behind two inches of bulletproof glass.)
In fact, when I think about it, banks always seem to have one or two hot girls working there, and they always dress very well. (Maybe the next Mack Tactics book should include a chapter on "Advanced Bank Macking"...)
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My first piece of advice: don't think about it as "asking her out on a date."
When you "ask a woman out," and you frame it as a "date," you are fighting an uphill battle.
Reason #1: You are making your attraction to her obvious. You're basically communicating to her, "I like you, and I'm hoping you will like me, too, so let me take you out and spend money on you in an attempt to show you I'm worthy of dating you."
Reason #2: If she turns you down for some reason -- even if she is honestly busy, or maybe she's got a boyfriend -- then it's going to make things awkward when you see her every day. You both know that YOU ASKED HER OUT, and SHE SAID NO.
So, if you want to know how to ask a girl out, the solution is to use a Mack Tactic that I call "The Innocent Invite."
Invite her to COME ALONG WITH YOU to an activity that you are already "planning." The message you are sending is this: you're a fun, cool guy with stuff going on, and here's HER chance to come along and join you for an activity.
You were planning to do this thing anyway (or, at least this is how it sounds), so if she CAN'T join you, it's not like she is "rejecting" you.
There are many different types of "Innocent Invites," and I have a ton of advice in my book on how to ask a girl out, but here's one of my favorite tactics:
If she's an attractive girl who works in a bank, I'm guessing that she dresses well, and has a nice sense of style. Use this to set up the invitation. When you get an opportunity to chat with her, ask her if she has any fun plans for next weekend, and then say,
"I need to shop for a gift this weekend -- my buddy Mike's birthday is in a few days. He's a great guy but I really think he could use a fashion makeover -- he's still wearing the same clothes he wore back in high school. So, I want to pick him up a really cool shirt, or a pair of jeans. Actually, I'd love to get your opinion on it -- why don't you come with me to the mall, if you help me pick out something cool, lunch is on me. What's better for you, Saturday or Sunday?"
(Notice, you're presenting her with a "false choice": you're not giving her the option to say "no," you're asking her which day is better -- Saturday or Sunday?)
If she declines to go with you for some reason, it's not a "rejection." You were going to the mall, anyway. You can always invite her somewhere else in the future. No worries, no stress.
NOTE: Complimenting a woman on her "sense of style" or "fashion sense" is always a winner. Attractive women put a lot of time and thought into their appearance. She will truly appreciate this thoughtful compliment, unlike when a bonehead tells her how "hot" or "beautiful" she is. (She hears that cheesy crap all the time.)
You could also invite her to come along with you to a bar or a cocktail lounge you're "planning to check out." A night-time activity is cool, too. But inviting her to accompany you shopping, during the daytime, is a very safe strategy.
And this type of date has a lot of side benefits:
- you're walking around with her and being active, which burns off your nervous energy
- Going into various stores with her creates all kinds of cool conversational topics. Visit a store that sells CDs and DVDs, and talk about the kinds of movies/music that she's into. What's her favorite perfume? What's her favorite cologne for men?
Women will divulge all kinds of information about themselves when they're shopping, and naturally, she's going to feel comfortable and relaxed in this type of environment. Women were born to shop, we all know this!
Bonus tip: go shopping with her in the late afternoon, around 4-5pm. The article of clothing that she helps you pick out for your buddy COULD be a gift that you give to a friend, or you'll just keep it for yourself. When you finish shopping, buy her a meal, and do it at a place that serves drinks.
Since it's now after 5pm, it's cool for you to order some cocktails or a pitcher of margaritas, and now the two of you can kick back and have your "date" -- without it FEELING like a date to her. She'll just feel like she's spending time with a fun, cool guy, and going with the flow...play it right, and this "daytime meet" could wind up lasting until morning!
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